Like you, I am shaped by my environment. The perfectly marvellous combination of transgenerational DNA and environmentally sourced wisdom, trauma and mastery coupled with influences from the cumulative experiences of 40 something years in this form. I’ve been blessed to have been raised by incredible parents, grandparents, siblings, a husband and two step children, a small country town, a public school education and Indigenous and rural people. The unique combination of a hungry spirit, aspiring intellect and the gift, given to me by my paternal Grandmother when I was born as she said out loud, for all to hear ‘she’s been here before’.

Interrupting The Buck Passing Blame Game

When things get difficult my personal default is to blame me first and then work towards averting the deep want to blame everyone and everything outside of myself and rage against the injustice of what is being done.   This pattern, which I know is not just mine alone, keeps me firmly ensconced in the…

Getting Your Needs Met

Ending relationships can be one of the most difficult – and avoided – things to do, especially for those who are empathetic and are painted with the people pleasing brush, it requires us to own our needs and act with integrity and… the worst of all, risk hurting someone else….  I remember clearly at age…

The Illusion of Control

“Life is a balance of holding on and letting go” Rumi   I have a confession which for those who know me will be unsurprising.   I like to be ‘in control’ in my life.  I like to know what I’m doing, I like to have a plan, I’m a big fan of lists and…

Cultivating The Antidote To Confusion

I had a very social childhood.   As an introvert this often felt very overwhelming to me, to be around lots of people a lot of the time – on the bus to school, at horse activities on weekends and large gatherings of friends but it was also exciting and fun – so it was…

The Cure For Doubting Your Ability

Doubt is a powerful master. It can be an insidious earworm that infects your very being and worthiness.    It can come when you least expect it and tarnish all areas of your life.   It’s a slippery slope when doubt is active in the energy field and it can be a difficult thing to…

The Struggle For A Purpose Fuelled Life

When we look for our purpose outside of ourselves we are likely to discover a pathway to ever diminishing self worth, increasing guilt and fear.   Not feeling good enough, experiencing imposter syndrome and resistance to OR constant change are all symptoms of this struggle.   But what if the struggle to come to terms…

Not Letting Go Is Self Punishment

I remember realising that we aren’t all built the same when it comes to our ability to ‘let go’ of stuff when I had a conversation with my husband many years ago that went something along the lines of….   “You know how those people didn’t like our airbnb and were critical” RB “Yeah” MM…

Healing The Fear Of Not Being Liked

In a lot of the personal healing work I have been doing recently I noticed a pattern emerging that relates to safety..particularly around a need to be safe which has been outsourced to the ‘tribe’.    There seems to be an assumption in our subconscious that the only way to be safe is when we…