Ending relationships can be one of the most difficult – and avoided – things to do, especially for those who are empathetic and are painted with the people pleasing brush, it requires us to own our needs and act with integrity and… the worst of all, risk hurting someone else….
I remember clearly at age 19 sitting opposite my beloved boyfriend of a few years knowing, in my heart, that it was over and not knowing, from my throat, how I was going to say it.
I didn’t do it well.
I fumbled.
I cried.
I said all the wrong words.
I hurt him deeply.
He left wounded, angry and confused.
I was left relieved and free and riddled also with guilt.
But my needs had to come first and the intuitive gut kick I’d been getting for months couldn’t be ignored any longer.
If we are going to get our needs met, in whatever area of our life we are struggling currently, there are four stages that must be accessed:
- Believe you are worthy of having your needs met (belief)
- Know what you need (intuition)
- Ask for what you need (communication)
- Receive what you need (acceptance)
If there are any blockages or resistance to any one of these aspects, it’s likely you will struggle to get your needs met AND it can be incredibly difficult to either ask for what you need or receive it when it’s being offered to you – even when it’s being offered with ferocity!
I created this free healing on the Fear Of Asking For What You Need as a first step to clearing resistance and blockages, interestingly the healing works on the spine.
I found that interesting as one of the cultural common phrases used when we are frustrated with ourselves or someone else who can’t seem to get their needs met is ‘grow a backbone or grow a spine’...
Which is impossible (metaphorically speaking) to do that if the first 2 points above are out of alignment.
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