In a lot of the personal healing work I have been doing recently I noticed a pattern emerging that relates to safety..particularly around a need to be safe which has been outsourced to the ‘tribe’.
There seems to be an assumption in our subconscious that the only way to be safe is when we are part of a tribe/community – that we individually cannot provide all the safety we need.
Fundamentally this work has shown me that humans fear being alone – because at a point in time in history this would have meant certain death and to be ostracized or booted out of the tribe would have been the worst punishment that could have been bestowed.
And if you pull the thread of this a little more you, which I have been, we discover the behaviors that could result in this ultimate punishment – being alone and unsafe – would have been doing things that others did not like…
And so, our fear of ‘not being liked’ was born – and, despite our modern world and the amenity and privilege which so many of us live with – we are STILL afraid at a cellular level of not being liked and we subconsciously limit and restrict our lives as a result.
What have you NOT done because you were afraid people wouldn’t like you?
What HAVE you done that you didn’t want to or didn’t feel right for you because you were afraid people wouldn’t like you?
It starts early… and most likely with our intimate family… We do things against our will because our parents told us to and we adapt and change behavior because we fear their disapproval or having them not like us. We rely on them… so it makes sense to do that.
But at what cost?
We call it peer pressure as children grow up… to ‘fit in’ and be liked, young people do things that they later wish they hadn’t or even at the time know is not right for them.
And what if we lived free from this fear?
Are we afraid that if we didn’t have this social containment to only behave in ways that people will ‘like’ we’d turn into a terrible person and so it’s part of our justification?
Or are we more afraid that we would soar to great heights or as Marianne Williamson says
“Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us”:
In a healing session with a client recently discovered they were as afraid of their power to hurt as they were of their power to love.
This is not uncommon, despite the fact that it makes no logical sense.
So what restricts us from caring about what other people think is the unlimited potential that it would unleash if we were unencumbered by this behavior.
Who would we be without this fear of people liking us?
What powerful energy would we unleash that we are currently wasting in a power and control dynamic trying to make sure everyone ‘likes’ us all of the time?
What would be possible in your life if you were as good and amazing as you are free from the fear of being liked?
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