Procrastination

Have you ever found yourself actively procrastinating from doing something that you simply KNOW would be beneficial or amazing for something you really want?    For example, you know you need to get your finances in order and to that you would ideally do a budget and stick to it, set up a savings account,…

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Interrupting The Buck Passing Blame Game

When things get difficult my personal default is to blame me first and then work towards averting the deep want to blame everyone and everything outside of myself and rage against the injustice of what is being done.   This pattern, which I know is not just mine alone, keeps me firmly ensconced in the…

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Getting Your Needs Met

Ending relationships can be one of the most difficult – and avoided – things to do, especially for those who are empathetic and are painted with the people pleasing brush, it requires us to own our needs and act with integrity and… the worst of all, risk hurting someone else….  I remember clearly at age…

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The Illusion of Control

“Life is a balance of holding on and letting go” Rumi   I have a confession which for those who know me will be unsurprising.   I like to be ‘in control’ in my life.  I like to know what I’m doing, I like to have a plan, I’m a big fan of lists and…

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Cultivating The Antidote To Confusion

I had a very social childhood.   As an introvert this often felt very overwhelming to me, to be around lots of people a lot of the time – on the bus to school, at horse activities on weekends and large gatherings of friends but it was also exciting and fun – so it was…

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The Cure For Doubting Your Ability

Doubt is a powerful master. It can be an insidious earworm that infects your very being and worthiness.    It can come when you least expect it and tarnish all areas of your life.   It’s a slippery slope when doubt is active in the energy field and it can be a difficult thing to…

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The Struggle For A Purpose Fuelled Life

When we look for our purpose outside of ourselves we are likely to discover a pathway to ever diminishing self worth, increasing guilt and fear.   Not feeling good enough, experiencing imposter syndrome and resistance to OR constant change are all symptoms of this struggle.   But what if the struggle to come to terms…

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Not Letting Go Is Self Punishment

I remember realising that we aren’t all built the same when it comes to our ability to ‘let go’ of stuff when I had a conversation with my husband many years ago that went something along the lines of….   “You know how those people didn’t like our airbnb and were critical” RB “Yeah” MM…

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Healing The Fear Of Not Being Liked

In a lot of the personal healing work I have been doing recently I noticed a pattern emerging that relates to safety..particularly around a need to be safe which has been outsourced to the ‘tribe’.    There seems to be an assumption in our subconscious that the only way to be safe is when we…

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Never Enough Time

Never Enough Time

I do love the song ‘never enough’ from the greatest showman except I also don’t like it as it’s a programming tool that keeps us in the loop for the ‘never enough’ syndrome that is RIFE in a scarcity oriented culture we are up against on a daily basis! I LOVE Brene Brown’s work in…

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The Gift Of Guilt for Growth

When you read the definition of guilt ‘the fact of having committed a specified or implied offense or crime’ OXFORD you would assume that guilt feelings would only belong to those who have done something ‘wrong’… But in my experience, the feelings of guilt come up frequently and most often for my clients when they…

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THE Energetics Of Enterprise

I quit university after my second year and took off, much to the despair of my family, to the Northern Territory.    My reason for quitting was not a lack of love for learning but that the requirements for proof of comprehension (tests and essays) left me baffled and, as I am both intelligent and…

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A Season Or A Reason

Change is an inevitable part of life. Whether we like it or not, change will come knocking on our doors sooner or later. However, the question is, how do we react to it?    Many of us resist change because we fear the unknown, we fear failure or we fear losing control.    But the…

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The biological Impulse for Eldership

In the year I turned 40 my husband came into the house exclaiming there was a piglet in the chookpen… we were perplexed as to how this little one had found its way to our place – covered in the painful thorns from hudson pear, he was the size of a beer can and barely…

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Overcoming The Pain Of Betrayal

I’ve been exploring the pain of betrayal in the energy readings and healings  that I’ve been doing lately and really seeing the small betrayals we carry out almost daily on ourselves in the form of broken promises, incompletion, living less than we expect of ourselves and from what I can tell, most of this behavior…

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Patterning The Past – The Structure Of Struggle

When I was a child I used to love to read the Berenstain Bears, a fun, adventurous children’s series that saw the overly enthusiastic Papa bear enter into all kinds of dangerous scenarios that the very wise Mama bear didn’t approve of but had the eager onlooking youngens intrigued and delighted – and very often,…

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Make Peace With Pain

  We are at war with a lot of aspects of our culture.. it’s so common in the mainstream media to read and hear and see headlines that speak to a war on something… terror, drugs, waste and yes, PAIN. And often the war feels justified – after all we genuinely want people to be…

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There’s just another mountain

I appreciate traveling away from home AND getting elevation, it always provides powerful perspective shifts that rattle my cells until they re-settle into a new way of being. I make it my priority to make the most of these experiences so the price paid by planet and people is worth it. As someone who lives…

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Understanding

I believe that understanding is where trust, power and control live and die and that is a fundamental truth we require in order to truly #thrive #heal and #evolve as humans. So often we outsource the requirement of understanding to others, expecting they will know us, will respond to our needs in a way that…

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Why do people wait for the cliff before they act?

I caught a glimpse of the transformative power of disaster recently when I watched a ‘tough’ older man rendered speechless by tears of appreciation as he shared the story, with an also teary reporter, about the young people in his community who had sandbagged all night to create a levee to save his, and many…

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I have every right to put myself first.

But with rights come responsibility. Which means I have every responsibility to put myself first. This is a condition that we are still grappling with as individuals living in a complex ecosystem. But a tree does not withhold its treeness to avoid hurting another tree.  It is unapologetically a tree… but a tree will also…

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THE Splinter Analogy – Symptom Mitigation or Root Cause?

Over the last 15 years I have come to know that many, possibly all, ‘problems’ have an energetic root…. which, if addressed effectively, can eliminate the problem altogether! What I mean by that is that anything we experience in our physical world (the world of senses) has a direct relationship to a cause that is…

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The WHYld ride

One of my favourite tools to share for transformational personal growth is the 5 WHYs…. It is so exciting to do this simple exercise with someone and to witness the aha moments that arise in the process.  This exercise is deceptively simple because all you need to do is become the annoying 3 year old…

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The sounds of silence

How long have you felt like you have been screaming into a void, so loud that your throat is closing, it’s red raw with rage and the violence is now reverberating through your cells? How long before the sound of your voice will reach the place where the changes are made? Who’s voice gets chosen…

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The Gap

Socrates wrote that the secret of change is to focus all your energy not on fighting the old but in building the new. And I wrestle with this concept on a daily basis, knowing, at a cellular level, it is true, but also needing to live, operate and expand within some systems that I know…

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To Bare Witness

To witness someone in the deep truth of vulnerability is the greatest gift to behold. To remain open-hearted, compassionate and with full love, as the human before you crumbles in the illusion of their body or story, is a precious act that creates a ripple in the universe bigger than any action of ‘real world’…

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Assumption

My daily newsfeed is filled with opportunities to learn new ways, fill my calendar, scale my business, grow to 7 or 8 figures, be busy and in equal measure, slow down, remember my worth and be mindful. Confusing to say the least, they seem to sit at the opposite ends of the spectrum…but no doubt…

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